I was watching Current TV the other night and they were discussing sex & relationships. One of the segments touched on how women should “be single” despite actually being single. Yes, that sounds repetitive…but it’s true. According to Current TV, 62% of women in Manhattan NY are single. I’m sure this doesn’t count women with boyfriends, but nonetheless…there are still a lot of single women.

Why so many? Because they dont “act single” or “appear  to be single” Here are some tips that can help you if you fit this category of ladies:

1) Smile.

Don’t need to cheeeeeese, dont need to laugh (awkward), don’t need to drool…but if you catch the eye of someone you think is attractive, smile. Guys don’t need much bait to bite. Try smiling at random people (even same sex) and see how much more interactions you have each day. You never know who could use that blessing…no matter how small it seems.

2) Conservatively sexy clothing.

Not too much cleavage. Try to keep tattoos hidden (they area chemoattractant for pervs). Check out the picture above. Whatever you do, don’t dress like a slut and don’t dress like a granny.

There are some things that automatically disqualify you from being dated. I honestly think these points are universal and therefore should apply to both men and women.

1) You wear shades in the club

This says more about you than you think. Honestly there can only be a few reason why you walked out of the house with shades on at 12 midnight:

you are high as a kite

you like to stare at people without them knowing

you are the unknown member of Three Six Mafia

or you have a medical condition known as photophobia

The only one I may be able to let you slide with is the photophobia…and you probably shouldn’t be shaking your ass under a strobe light if that’s the case.

2) You have no car

If you are over the age of 21 without a car, I just can’t rock with you (R.I.P MJ). I can understand being in college and not having a car…and really you should have some means of getting around independently by your senior year. I really can’t get down with driving to go pick you up, take you out, then driving to go drop you off EVERYTIME. Yea once in a while is not that big of a deal, but that kind of driving can get costly…and i’m just a student. Give me a break. Step your game up. This is not Bedrock (and even they had a car)

the rest of the disqualifications

Yes, I know the picture is witty.

Preface: I personally think relationships are at equilibrium when double standards are understood, rationalized between both parties, and subsequently agreed upon over a glass of wine and a fun shag. One, for instance, is that I can walk around the gym with my top off but you can’t walk around the gym wearing a wife beater with no bra. Image is everything, and at the very worst i’ll be deemed as attractive by some unsuspecting soccer mom. At the very worst you will be deemed as the town whore (aka my girlfriend). Not wassup.

Another example to clarify. I can tweet “i just scratched my [scrotum]” on Twitter and at the very worst i’ll get one or two “eeewww @DrDapo“… however if you tweet “i just picked some lint off my [box]” you will be deemed to be a filthy skank. Hey it’s life. I didn’t say it was right, but it’s just the way things are.

Stereotypes, to a certain degree, keep us sane. I am all for challenging but to live life in the “ideal” and not the “real” is to live life as an impressionable infant. Harsh but true.

Please be advised.

Now for the Top 10 Double Standards that Men face…

Ones to look out for: #4, #5, #6, #7

Top 10 Double Standards

So in light of my extremely average performance on my ICM exam, and the subsequent lack of motivation to do anything but sulk and watch action movies, i’m going to wrap up my night with a few pointers about rushing into relationships.

Let’s see….I think a preface would be of some help.

Since I’ve been in med school I’ve witnessed (not participated in) relationship after relationship after relationship. The vast majority of these begin merely weeks after the initial date/frolic/encounter. Now i’m really talking about going from “Hi my name’s Dapo” to “Hey guys this is my babymama” in about 14-21 days.

This baffles me. How much can you really know someone in that short of a time period? Even if you spend every breathing moment with them…you still have no clue who this individual is. There’s a lot that makes a person who he/she is (atleast 20 years worth of experiences) and I don’t think you can feasibly uncover all of that in a couple weeks.

Funny enough, there seem to be some redundancies in the manner at which these relationship come about. Here are my observations:
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